STEPS OF CHAPTER 9
| 1. | We admitted we were powerless over our partners and relationships–that our lives had become unmanageable. |
| 2. | Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us and our relationships to sanity. |
| 3. | Made a decision to turn our will, our lives, and our relationships over to the care of God as we understood God. |
| 4. | Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves as partners and of our relationships. |
| 5. | Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being or couple the exact nature of our wrongs. |
| 6. | Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. |
| 7. | Humbly asked God to remove our shortcomings. |
| 8. | Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all. |
| 9. | Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others. |
| 10. | Continued to take inventory of ourselves as partners and of our relationships, and when we were wrong promptly admitted it. |
| 11. | Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood God, praying only for knowledge of God’s will for us and the power to carry that out. |
| 12. | Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to couples in recovery, and to practice these principles in all our affairs. |